Back to School!

Here in Nashville, school starts in just a little over two weeks. It is really hard to believe that the summer break is almost over! July always seems to fly by, and then suddenly we are thrust into schedules and homework again. Plus with all of the back to school shopping it can be a little overwhelming, financially and mentally. Today, I wanted to give you some tips for easing back into a schedule and getting ready for back to school shopping.

The one thing that I prioritize every year is getting our family back into a normal bedtime routine.

This can be especially difficult for those of us who are SAHM’s or teachers, as we have also been going to bed later and sleeping in as well. About two weeks before school starts back, I like to gradually scoot bedtime back to a reasonable hour. Then by the time we are starting back to school, we are ready for those early morning hours.

*A note: You have to be really intentional about getting back into a routine, because it can be easy to put it off and then struggle that first week back.

By far though, back to school shopping can be the most stressful part for me, because I am trying to budget all this extra money for school supplies and clothes.

I always struggle between just going to buy the stuff or waiting until tax free weekend, which can actually save you a good bit of money. Especially if you are buying big ticket items like computers and tablets.

So here is my number one rule for shopping on tax free weekend: Go EARLY on Friday morning. This way you miss quite a bit of the crowds. Most Walmart’s are open 24 hours or really early, so you can go at midnight if you want. I prefer a more reasonable hour, like say 6 or 7 am! Another plus of going that early is that you can leave your kids home sleeping while your husband gets ready for work. If you can at all avoid it, do not go shopping after Friday! It is sure to be crowded and chaotic!

Check with your school principal or PTO to see if you can go ahead and get a supply list now. By the time school starts, the supplies are pretty picked over. If your school has a Facebook page, check to see if the lists are uploaded there.

Here are some great deals on Amazon that can be disbursed between your children:

Elmer’s Disappearing Purple School Glue, Washable, 30 Pack, 0.24-ounce sticks – $8.79 Shipped


Ticonderoga Pencils 96 count – $9.96 Shipped

Walmart, Target, and Staples will usually be your best bet on the prices for crayons, colored pencils, and folders. But watch your grocery store ads because they sometimes have good deals too. At Target, you can order online and pick up in store for free, which is a great deal!

Check Out Crazy 8’s deals on school Uniforms

Finally, it’s time to get back on track with your meal planning!

You should read my article Meal Planning Tips and Tricks first and then check out my Recipe Index to get some ideas on easy meals. I will be back to posting my weekly meal plan and deals the first week of school, so stay tuned for that!

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One Pan Enchilada Casserole

A few weeks ago, I had done my meal planning, and had bought all the ingredients for my Enchilada Casserole recipe. The night that I was supposed to make it, I was completely exhausted, but didn’t really want to order a pizza.

So, as I like to do sometimes, I made up something new. Thankfully, it worked and it was just as good as it is the other way. My favorite part about cooking it this way is that I only get one pan dirty, and I am not doing dishes all night. (Have I mentioned how much I hate doing dishes?)

Here is the new version of the recipe:

One Pan Enchilada Casserole
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Yield: 6

One Pan Enchilada Casserole

Ingredients

  • 1 bag of yellow or white corn tortillas
  • 1 can black beans
  • 1 16 oz. can enchilada sauce
  • 1 lb browned ground beef or shredded chicken
  • 1 8oz bag shredded cheese such as Jack, Colby Jack, Mexican Blend, or Cheddar
  • Sour Cream, Avocado Slices, Guacamole, etc.

Instructions

  1. On medium high heat, brown the ground beef. (or just add your cooked shredded chicken)
  2. Turn your burner down to low.
  3. Add the black beans
  4. Pour in the enchilada sauce
  5. Cut all of the tortillas into 1/2 inch thick strips.
  6. Stir all of the tortilla strips into the mixture.
  7. Add about 1/2 cup of cheese and stir until melted.
  8. It is that easy!!
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Really Important Work

Sometimes I start to write things on here and I get interrupted by my children and never finish them. It is like I lose my train of thought and that is just it. Sometimes I write things on here and I am too scared too publish them. Sometimes I can’t write at all because there is just nothing there. Nothing. It’s as if I am all used up and I just don’t have anything left over. I am numb and I just cannot do anything else. I think I have been pretty numb off and on for a while now, so I find something that I think works for me until it just doesn’t anymore. Then I am numb again. And the cycle goes on and on. And I find myself wondering what does it all mean? What am I doing? What am I DOING? I remind myself that I am doing something so important right now, I am raising little humans, teaching them to be kind, loving and brave. Teaching them to do the right thing and to be nice at school. Helping them to learn about faith and not to be afraid to ask questions and seek out the answers. Teaching them to think for themselves and sometimes just teaching them to hold a pencil, or tie a shoe or even put their pants on. It is such important work, exhausting work, and sometimes it is work that leaves you feeling all used up and spit out. And sometimes it is wonderful when you watch your children do things that you taught them to do. And even though it didn’t seem like it at the time, they were listening to you!

Here is my problem: I can’t shake this nagging feeling that there is something out there that I should be doing. Something more than I am doing now. It is hard to shake the feeling that life has got to be more than this daily stuff. It just seems like there should be more important work than the daily grind, working, working until you must rest. I can’t figure out what it is that nags me constantly, so I come up with all of these ideas, and none of them really seem just right. There is ALWAYS a reason why those things aren’t going to work. Then I remind myself that I am doing REALLY IMPORTANT work. When you are raising children, sometimes the days are so long and hard that you can’t even see that you did something good today. Then you spend time beating yourself up over that moment you had when you yelled at your kid that day because he refused to put his shoes on. You wonder what you are doing wrong when your kids don’t listen to anything you say. But then you have a moment when things go right and you know that you aren’t completely screwing it up. And you have a moment of being so proud of your kids for their accomplishment no matter how big or small.

It is hard to hold on to those moments when your kids are screaming in the grocery store. It is hard to hold on to those moments when your 2 year old cries about everything all morning long and you can’t understand what she is saying! At the end of the day there is just NOTHING left. NOTHING! I always think that the mom’s with the babies and the toddlers and the preschoolers, were are in the thick of it, just trying to do the best we can without pulling our hair out. But it seems like every age comes with its own set of problems and you are just finished with one textbook and the whole thing changes completely. I don’t think we are ever going to know the exact right thing to do at the exact right time. You just have to do what you can, what you think is right and learn to forgive yourself when you screw it up. Perhaps it would be good if all of us mothers kept a journal just for those precious moments and we can pull it out when everything has gone to hell that day. I think it would help me for sure. Sometimes I really need those reminders, I think we all do, especially on the rough days. I know we always try to put our best side out there for everyone to see but I think sometimes it is just good to know that things don’t ever go perfectly for any mom. So if you run across a mom who is having a hard day, just give her a smile, one that says that it is going to be okay!

And one last thing, the other day I was at Target, with my giant buggy empty behind the van while I buckled the kids in and this very nice lady came and said ” If you are done with that, I will take this back for you. It has been a long time, but I have been where you are.” I told her thank you. But what I really meant was ” Thank you for noticing that I could use a little help. The fact that you stopped to help me means a lot to me. And honestly, it really makes my day better knowing that someone cares enough to take a moment to help make my day a little easier.” And maybe that IS the bigger more important thing : Seeing and noticing what is going on around me. Trying to help others. Trying to understand others. It doesn’t have to be anything big to make a difference to someone else. And then not only have you made someone else feel better, you feel better, and if you’re kids are watching, it is probably a better lesson than any speech you could ever give.

Getting A New Pair of Glasses

Next week I will turn 32, and I feel like I have been a mother forever at this point. Fourteen years ago, when I turned 18, it would be one week later that I would become a mother. From the time I found out I was pregnant with Alyssa, I never had a doubt that I would keep her, and from that day on I spent most of my time trying to learn how to be an adult. I learned to be strong and that I could make it through anything. Sometimes I feel like I have gone through these last 14 years always trying to be older to compensate for the fact that I was so young. It used to be so hard for me and really hurt my feelings when people would point out how young I looked/was. Once when I was in the mall (only about 4 years ago) this lady thought I was 16, and here I am walking with a couple of kids age 9 &4. Honestly, it kind of made me mad and hurt that this lady had seemed to go out of her way to point out that I must have started young.

When you start out your adult life as a newlywed, pregnant, and already out on your own it is sort of like being thrown into a pool to learn how to swim. Sure you have people telling you what to do, but it is ultimately you that has to swim so that you don’t sink. And along the way there is this constant pressure that you should be doing this or that. You should be all things at all times, so that is what you set your goals to. You will work full time to make sure that your kids had what you didn’t. You will stay at home with your kids and cook all the time and always be in a state of crafty, mommy bliss. And then came the social networks and the blogs and Pinterest and it is like High School : Mommy Edition. Who took their kids to Sunday School? Who cooked healthy awesome meals all this week? Who has the right political agenda? Who buys cute handmade clothes for their kids? Who had fun activities planned out for every day of Christmas break? Who made the best teacher gift? Who can make a wreath that looks just like that one they pinned? And not that there is anything wrong with these things that we post. The thing that is wrong is how we read them. Oh wow, I sure wish I had the time/energy/money to do that.Why do we do that to ourselves?

It is a learning process, this job of motherhood. You have to allow yourself to be and accept who you are. Being unapologetic about who I am scares the crap out of me and I suspect that hiding (besides my thyroid) it has helped lead to this state of anxiety and depression that I have been in lately. From the time I became an adult, I have been different. I wasn’t going to college or getting a job, I was changing diapers. And I was ashamed that I wasn’t doing things “the right way”. I have always looked young and when people would stare at me as I pushed a stroller, I felt shame. So I tried really hard to be this super awesome, mature and extremely responsible person, so people would think all of those things about me. But now I know that I am different and that is alright. I don’t have to pretend to be something that I am not. Some days I get a lot of things done around the house. Some days I get almost nothing done around the house. Some days I do fun awesome things with my kids and some days I just want them to just go play and leave me alone. Some days are really good and some days are really bad and some days are just eh!

This was what we looked like after grocery shopping on Saturday!

So today I am stepping out into the open to say this: There is no right or wrong way to do things. There is no system out there that works for everyone. Some days you are going to be Suzy homemaker and some days will leave you wishing for a convertible and a beach. Okay, a lot of days. So this is what I am trying so hard to do. Let go of any expectations that I have of myself and just try to be my best self every day. What that means is that I wake up and I have things that I know must be done that day. Like sending out the rent check, making sure there is food to eat, or making sure everyone at least has clean underwear! For now I am letting go of the lists and just doing what I can each day. If I get the house clean, or take the kids somewhere fun, do crafts and painting, don’t yell at anyone, don’t lose my patience, cook an awesome meal, then I had a good day. If I am unable to do anything that day and feel bitter then I have probably let the demons who tell me that I am not good enough in that day. And I need to give myself a break and stop being so tough and trying too hard.

So the pressure is off. No more unrealistic expectations.No more stress about being perfect or looking way too young to have a kid going into high school. Or worrying what people think about the fact that I have four kids. And I am not going to feel guilty about all of the things that I haven’t gotten done. I am going to try to feel good about the things that I have done and press on every day and try to be what I can be that day. I hope you will too and by the way I love all of the cute things that we all post on Facebook etc., because we are just excited that we did something cool and share worthy that day. But when you go through your posts instead of envy thinking that this woman must do this cool stuff all of the time, remember that she has really crappy days too. She posted this today because it was a positive thing and it made her feel good about herself and silently congratulate her because we all know how hard being a parent really is.